Dealing with failure

All of us fail sometimes, professionally or privately. Failure is an inherent part of our lives. We experience it as a shock, e.g. in case of a layoff, or as an insidious and painful process, e.g. in case of a divorce. The only thing that is common to all people who fail is that they do not remain unaffected by it.

Failure opens the door to a great number of possible emotions: feelings of guilt, shame, anger, brooding, disbelief, reproaches, sadness or fear are just some of the more typical ones. And how do you experience failure? Do you feel blocked or does it spur you on to pursue new goals? Do you speak about it openly or do you hide? Do you take the time to analyze it and perhaps learn a lesson from it? Are you mindful of yourself in the aftermath of failure?

Everything in life has two sides, failure too. Not the process of failing, but how we deal with it defines us as human beings.

Top athletes are excellent examples of how every failure in a competition can be converted into a positive value in the face of the next competition. Top athletes have the chance to rely on their support system, e.g. mental coaches. But you also do not have to cope with and digest the difficult moment of failure on your own. Together we can work with method and focus to create for you an incentive and give you back your self-esteem. I remember how failure felt for me and am only one contact away in case you need support.

Until then, may you look to the future with unwavering positivity.

Kind regards, Tatjana Gaspar
(February 2020)